As A Woman

I saw this the other day and it is probably the truest statement I have ever come across. When I was younger, I’m sure that 40’s seemed ancient. However, the way my grandmother and mom have carried themselves through the years, getting older was never a fear of mine.

I have never been one to be concerned with getting older. The grays, the wrinkles, the everything that comes with it. I have earned every single one of those gray hairs. All the laugh and worry lines and especially those WTF lines.

I enjoy the calmness that comes with getting older. Trivial things don’t matter anymore. I am who I am and there is nothing to apologize for. Drama is irrelevant. I have no time for things or people that create it and I have no problem removing those things from my life. In my 20’s, I would have second guessed myself about that.

It has become easier to set boundaries and stick to them. I have a somewhat chaotic routine that I love. I have friends that really are friends. I have a unrequited love for being at home but also a unrelenting desire to go on adventures. (Just not too much of an adventure).

As the pic above states: I love this shit so much. We we are all younger and looking forward to being an adult? This is what we are looking forward to. This amazing unapologetic realness.

There Is a Huge Difference!

Most of you know exactly what I’m talking about here. You wake up day in and day out tired, achy, headachy, groggy, no energy, no focus, making it through your day with a pot of coffee, sodas, energy drinks and going through the motions. You feel like crap all the time and do nothing but look forward to taking a nap or going to bed.

I used to live for coffee all day long.
Ibuprofen was my best friend.
I couldn’t get up out of bed without hurting.
My feet and body would take hours to start “working” with some kind of normalcy.
A headache was just a given.
I had no energy.
If I wasn’t working, I was sitting on the couch or laying in the bed.
I was always in a bad mood.
Irritable.
Depressed.
Moody.
Always asking myself “What is wrong with me?”
Or telling myself “You’re just getting older, it’s your job, it’s the kids, this is just a normal part of getting older.” It’s not.
It’s not normal.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
I am proof.

Do I still get tired?
Yes
Do I still have not so great days?
Of course

But those moments are now far and in between and not my daily life anymore. For that I am thankful. .
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There Is a Huge Difference!

Most of you know exactly what I’m talking about here. You wake up day in and day out tired, achy, headachy, groggy, no energy, no focus, making it through your day with a pot of coffee, sodas, energy drinks and going through the motions. You feel like crap all the time and do nothing but look forward to taking a nap or going to bed.

I used to live for coffee all day long.
Ibuprofen was my best friend.
I couldn’t get up out of bed without hurting.
My feet and body would take hours to start “working” with some kind of normalcy.
A headache was just a given.
I had no energy.
If I wasn’t working, I was sitting on the couch or laying in the bed.
I was always in a bad mood.
Irritable.
Depressed.
Moody.
Always asking myself “What is wrong with me?”
Or telling myself “You’re just getting older, it’s your job, it’s the kids, this is just a normal part of getting older.” It’s not.
It’s not normal.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
I am proof.

Do I still get tired?
Yes
Do I still have not so great days?
Of course

But those moments are now far and in between and not my daily life anymore. For that I am thankful. .
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There Is a Huge Difference!

Most of you know exactly what I’m talking about here. You wake up day in and day out tired, achy, headachy, groggy, no energy, no focus, making it through your day with a pot of coffee, sodas, energy drinks and going through the motions. You feel like crap all the time and do nothing but look forward to taking a nap or going to bed.

I used to live for coffee all day long.
Ibuprofen was my best friend.
I couldn’t get up out of bed without hurting.
My feet and body would take hours to start “working” with some kind of normalcy.
A headache was just a given.
I had no energy.
If I wasn’t working, I was sitting on the couch or laying in the bed.
I was always in a bad mood.
Irritable.
Depressed.
Moody.
Always asking myself “What is wrong with me?”
Or telling myself “You’re just getting older, it’s your job, it’s the kids, this is just a normal part of getting older.” It’s not.
It’s not normal.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
I am proof.

Do I still get tired?
Yes
Do I still have not so great days?
Of course

But those moments are now far and in between and not my daily life anymore. For that I am thankful. .
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Why Wouldn’t You?

Seriously!
How could you not?
If something has really
Made a difference for you,
How could you not want to help
someone make a difference for themselves?
That’s why I continue to share.
That’s why I continue to post.
Someone out there somewhere is struggling.
Struggling with the same things I struggled with for so long.
Someone out there is tired all the time.
Stuck on the same corner of the couch.
Someone out there hurts too much.
Someone has headaches all day every day.
Someone needs more energy.
Someone out there needs the same help I did.
Someone out there needs to find what I found.
The same nudge.
The same push.
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Pink magic

Gettin it in!

Love my pink magic.

Love that it gives me sustainable energy.

Love that it has helped me with sooooo many things that I thought were just normal.

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🎯Headaches all the time?

🎯Tired all the time?

🎯Tummy troubles?

🎯No energy?

🎯Aches and pains all the time?

🎯Anxiety?

🎯Sugar or caffeine cravings?

🎯Weight issues?

🎯Inflammation?

🎯Skin issues?

🎯Sick all the time?

🎯Allergies?

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Just to name a few…

This was me.

Not anymore.

Never going back to that.

Ever.

When Life Takes Over

Ahhhhhh yes…life. It’s a wonderful, funny, frustrating, lovely, exciting, beautiful, infuriating thing. It can take over without you even being aware of what is happening, and before you know it, you are stuck in a stupid routine you didn’t even want in the first place.

How many times have you set out to do something. You started doing it and then things get all flustered and hectic and that “thing” just kinda slips away. It is something you really want to do, everyday, for you. To keep your sanity, to keep a small piece of you in play…but then life takes over and suddenly you are doing everything for everyone else, again. Why do our mom brains, wife brains, work brains allow us to forget our me brains?

Structure doesn’t work well for me. I have tried. Same things, same time everyday and it just doesn’t work. I will get more stressed out trying to do that than just letting things play out. My work schedule isn’t the same on a day to day or even a week to week basis. Therefore, I have to adjust. My family has to adjust. Sometimes it just feels like it is chaotic all the time.

Rarely, if ever, do I have downtime. My downtime consists of laundry, picking up, fixing dinner, etc. On occasion, I can sit down with my crochet, sit here and write something like this or just sit and do nothing. I thoroughly enjoy the crochet, writing and nothing. But! When I do that and finally decide to do laundry, I find 4 loads in the washer, not washed, that someone just wanted to get off the floor. Why would someone else actually want to do a load??

I understand that when you become a wife, mom, grandma, and work outside the home there are certain things you sign up for. I get it. However, why do we let those things always override ourselves? The age old question…

Soooooooo. Back to my laundry and picking up before I have to go to work and pull a very, extremely busy late shift 😒🤷‍♀️

Mind Reader?

Mom/Wife rant of the day!

How many of us eat, sleep, drink, dream…literally breath our family on a daily basis. Every moment, every thought process, every decision is based on them. Whether it’s if you wash that load of laundry or what you buy at the grocery store. Now, with that same thought, how many of our families do that same thing for us? Or has it become a scenario where all that you do is now expected and God forbid you swerve off course.

Have you actually sat down and told them what you need? What will help you? What will make things easier for you? Or do you just expect them to know that the clean clothes in the laundry basket need to be put away cuz you didn’t have time? Or the trash needs to go out cuz it’s overflowing? For most of us it seems like a no brainer…for others, obviously, not so much.

Now, what if you have repeatedly told them what you need? Asked for help? Let them know what will make you happy and make your life easier but still get not much, if anything, in return. Or they seem to “get it” for a day or two…maybe a week or two, and then it goes back to normal. Frustrating to say the least.

It takes a village. It also takes more than just a mom, or husband, or kids to make a household run smoothly. However, many of us take it under our wing and try to do everything to make everyone else’s life easier, happy and then we get so overwhelmed that we can feel like there is no end to it. We can’t keep up. Some of us don’t have much of a choice and we do the very best we can.

When we finally decide to give ourselves a break, do something we want to do on our day off or realize that load of clothes will still be there tomorrow, I swear I think it throws the entire Universe off kilter. Dinner isn’t ready when it usually is, someone doesn’t have something to wear that they need for tomorrow. Then you feel guilty, cuz you single handedly messed up someone’s day by enjoying yours. (If you even get to enjoy it trying not to feel guilty the entire time). Why couldn’t they do the load of clothes? Already have dinner done? But yet, you come home and everyone is sitting around, doing what they want, waiting…for you. Guess what happens? You say nothing and you scramble to get done whatever needs to be done while, you guessed it, everyone sits around and waits.

So what do we do? We keep doing it. Frustrated, overwhelmed and not very happily. We do what we can to try and keep some kind of peace even if it means we don’t get any.

Rant over. For now…maybe.

Today’s To Do List

My to do list every day, though sometimes I need a reminder! .
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What’s Your Path?

What path are you on today? Sometimes we are all ready, set, go on a certain one…then life happens and we have to readjust, adapt, maybe even change our way of thinking. That’s ok…there is always a reason for everything and even though we may not know what that reason is, we have to trust ourselves and our intuitions to help lead us the right way. If you find you end up in the wrong spot, make a new path. .
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