What’s Your Path?

What path are you on today? Sometimes we are all ready, set, go on a certain one…then life happens and we have to readjust, adapt, maybe even change our way of thinking. That’s ok…there is always a reason for everything and even though we may not know what that reason is, we have to trust ourselves and our intuitions to help lead us the right way. If you find you end up in the wrong spot, make a new path. .
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What’s over there?

Good morning! Happy Monday! What is on the other side of that little hill? Around that bend? Could be good bad 😞 Could be opportunity ðŸĪ— Could be something fantastic 😍 Could be something scary 😖 Truth is, it’s unknown, you won’t know till you get there. So does that mean you turn around and go back the way you came? Or do you keep moving forward, even though it may be scary? .
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Do Something Different?

How long have you been doing the same thing over and over the same way and expecting a different outcome? Guess what, it’s not gonna happen. Sometimes you have to change things up a bit, get out of your comfort zone, think outside your box.

Our comfort zone is our safe place. We are comfortable there but it’s also very easy to get stuck there. Some days we are all gungho about stepping out of it, motivated to do something new, right up until the moment we go to do it. Then all these voices start popping into our head. The what ifs creep in. The anxiety pops up. Then we end up talking or thinking our way out of it faster than we pumped ourselves up to do it.

You always hear people say, think outside the box. However, what if it is a box that you have created for yourself. You do what works for you. You do what is easy for you. You keep a learned behavior because it has served you well in the past and it’s all you really know. It isn’t easy to shift our brains into a different gear or down a new path when we have been on the same one for soooo long.

I’ve learned that our biggest obstacle is usually ourselves. We hold ourselves back more than we think we do. We aren’t always willing to accept the unknown. If we can’t see what’s on the other side of a decision, then we don’t dare take the next step. We want certainty. We don’t like to be uncomfortable. It can be downright scary. So, we just keep doing what we know, what we’re comfy with, because we already know what the outcome is going to be.

So what if that outcome doesn’t serve us any longer? We still keep doing things the same way and eventually we become ok with the negativity. It becomes toxic to us but for some reason, we still revel in it. How do we retrain our brains to do something different? We somehow have to be ok with being uncomfortable, even if just for a little while.

The mind is a powerful thing. However, it is your mind and you have the ability to control it. This takes time, baby steps, one day at a time, sometimes one second at a time. One uncomfortable moment at a time.

This is something that I’m still working on. I have sometimes been successful at it, other times I feel like I’m right back at square one. But, it is an awesome feeling when you overcome your own fears, your own insecurities. When you get to the other side of them, it makes you wonder what you were ever so worried about in the first place.

Honor Yourself

How many times have you come out on the other side of a situation thinking to yourself, “If I had only…”. How long have you sat there and pondered the what ifs? What if I had said this? Done this? Reacted like this? You could sit and do this for hours, days, years…where does it get you? Nowhere.

We do the best we can with what we know right now. Life is a series of teachable moments. You learn from mistakes, situations and experiences so that you can do better the next time. That is how we grow. If you keep reliving the same situation over and over again, maybe you haven’t learned what you’re supposed to yet.

How many times have you had the same conversation over and over with your kids, husband, coworker, or friend without a different outcome? You feel like you’re beating your head against a brick wall. If they would just listen, right? Have you perhaps tried changing the way you react to a situation in hope of a different outcome? Sometimes this works…and sometimes your kids, husband, etc are just hard headed and don’t catch on.

I know that when I’m in a situation like this I can feel the stress compounding. The anxiety can be overwhelming and I have to shut it down. I have to take a breather. Could be a day, week or month. I have to step away or out of the situation and remove myself from it. Take a time out so to speak. Sometimes, not even think about it until my brain is ready to revisit it with a new outlook.

I don’t really have any words of wisdom when it comes to things like this. Only that you need to trust yourself. Trust your gut and instinct. Sometimes you have to make a change within yourself if you want to see change elsewhere.

Learn to adapt to new things. Trust that your journey is going to lead you to where you need to be, not necessarily where you want to be.

Evolve by learning from your mistakes, experiences, choices…take from them what you need to grow and leave the rest.

Become the best you that you can be. Be kind, thoughtful and fully aware in every situation. Make sure that your loved ones know that they are thought of, that you’re there for them, that they are loved. However, don’t over extend yourself so that you have nothing left for you.

Be present for your relationships. We all get distracted with everyday going ons that we forget about the ones that are right in front of us. Work, bills, daily chores…we get lost in it. When is the last time you took 5 minutes to really give someone your attention? When is the last time you did something for someone just to do it?

Including yourself…

Tuesday Check List

Don’t forget to drink your coffee, plexus or whatever your crutch is so you have some small type of functionality.

Try and stay focused and positive. You are the one that decides how your day is gonna go.

Take a deep breath. Count to 3, 10, 50 or 100 if you have to. Step back before you react to anything. Sometimes silence is best. Some people can’t help but be the way they are.

Put your pants on, if you want.

And last but not least, remember, Nobody looks good in orange!

Thou Shall Not!

How many times have you started your day in a goodish mood, surprisingly happyish upon waking, just to have it all go to hell cuz of one person you let into your personal thoughts or space? Sometimes it happens before you are even aware of what is going on. When that person walks away, you’re like…damn.

When you work with the public, it’s hard to not let others attitudes and personalities interrupt your mood. Good or bad. Some are infectiously good and some are just horribly horrible. You work in the same place long enough, you get to know who to speak at length with and who to try to stay away from.

So what do you do when these people are considered family or a close friend? Most everyone will consider it taboo to let yourself stay away from family or close friends. But, what if this person can turn your good day into a bad day at the drop of a hat. What if?

I say you have to give yourself permission to allow yourself space. If you know that this person is toxic to you in any way, you may need to separate yourself to some extent. You are allowed to say no when they want to see you. You are allowed to decline that call when you see their name. You are allowed to unfollow on social media when it’sconstant negativity. You are allowed to not read that text when you get it and think to yourself “oh hell no, I do not have time for this today”. It doesn’t matter who it is, give yourself permission to take a breather.

Your energy, your thoughts and your mood are yours. If you can help it, don’t let someone else interrupt what could be an awesome day for you. Set boundaries and limitations for yourself and others. Keep your bubble closed whenever possible and when all else fails, grab yourself a big ol stick of sage and then see who doesn’t come around anymore 😉ðŸĪŠ

No Idea…

Sometimes I really don’t have a clue. This just happens to be one of those times. It’s not just with one thing, it typically seems to be 100 things at once. Which is probably really only a couple things that I turn into 100 things. That makes me shut down, makes my brain shut down, and if it isn’t something mundane and thoughtless, I put it off.

Not that I don’t continue to stress over it, cuz I do. However, the decision making process is nowhere to be found. Usually cuz there are no easy answers. A mom wants her kids to be safe, happy and taken care of. A wife wants her husband to be happy, content and taken care of. Sometimes those two thing can clash and it makes for a very stressed out and emotional wife and mama.

This process can become stagnant if I let it. I will sit and think about it for minutes and hours on end. It actually can cause physical turmoil in me if I let it. That’s when I have to shut it down. Don’t ask me a question about it cuz I won’t have an answer. Better yet, don’t ask me a question about anything unless it’s something simple, like the weather.

There are pros, cons and consequences to every decision. That goes without saying and it is just the way life is. Weighing those out sometimes is impossible. There is not always a good or simple solution.

So, I will ponder. Think. Try. Until something comes to me. Something that will possibly make things easy for everyone involved. Including me.

Quiet Mornings

There is something to be said for waking up before anyone else. Especially on a cool, quiet, Sunday morning. I usually gripe about waking up before my alarm goes off but at least I get to wake up rested, and this morning I get to enjoy my coffee in silence without alarms going off and rushing people out the door.

I have no real direction in where I’m going with this blog today. Sporadic thoughts and no real rhyme or reason. Very seldom do I actually sit and enjoy quiet time. I always feel that I should be doing something. I mean there really is about 1000 other things I could be doing right now instead of this. However, that will always be the case and I don’t think those things will ever really go away. So today, at this moment I choose to do nothing. Nothing except sit here on my back porch and enjoy it.

Life seems to have taken over and there are things that used to bring me a small sense of peace and joy that I rarely, if ever, do anymore. Most of the time I never realize that it’s happening until one day I do something and remember, “Oh yeah, this is something I enjoy, I should do it more often.”

Reading is one. There was a time when you would never catch me without my face in a book. I could read a book in a day or two. Now I can’t remember the last time I read one. Or which book I stopped on in some of my favorite series. I have no less time now than I did before but for some reason it just feels that way.

Writing was another one. If I didn’t have my face in a book, I had a pen in my hand. Writing about anything and everything. The seasons, the Moon, feelings, joy’s, triumphs, phases, etc. I still have most of my writings and will pull them out every once in a while. When I read them I’m like, “Wow, I wrote this? It’s actually really good. Who was this person?”

Nature. I used to spend so much time with it, in it, feeling it and becoming it. Trees, flowers, weeds, the Moon. There is something about working with your landscape, untouched, and becoming part of it rather than destroying it and making it something it’s not. There’s a flow to nature and everything in it and when you become in tune with that, the energies are far superior to anything you’ve ever imagined and there really is nothing like it.

I guess what all these thoughts are aiming towards is don’t forget who you are. So many things in life can take over and make you something you’re not without you even realizing it. Whether it’s a job, kids, a relationship, a move. Always try and keep some of what makes you happy a part of you. Grab a book, write something down, sit under your favorite tree…or do all 3 at the same time. Allow yourself to do what makes you feel good and something that makes you, you.

Positive Vibes Only

“She is at a place in her life where peace is her priority and negativity cannot exist, most of the time”

Sometimes this is easier said than done. I do strive to make a positive spin out of almost anything that can and will be thrown my way. However, when you have a million things coming at you and no answers or solutions, it can be trying. Also, downright frustrating as hell.

I also know that everything typically always works out alright. Maybe not always the way I think it will, but I generally come out on the otherside of whatever it may be in a good place.

That doesn’t always make the process easy or bearable. Sometimes we just have to live in the negative for a moment to be grateful for when it is over. Knowing that somehow, some way, things will turn out ok.

My brain goes a million miles a minute on any given day. Thinking, processing, wondering…it can at times be a complete jumbled up pile of crap. If someone asked me what I was thinking I wouldn’t have a clue as to where to begin. It could be a hundred different things at any moment having nothing and everything to do with one another.

I have gotten much better at dealing with this over the years. Used to, I would be a complete basketcase and be so deep in my own head I wouldn’t be able to find my way out. Sometimes not even be able to function. Thankfully that isn’t the case anymore. I have friends and family that have helped me tremendously overcome that side of myself.

I have been on mood stabilizers and antidepressants. For many people they work wonders. They didn’t work for me, weren’t my thing. I didn’t feel I should have to take a prescription to make myself able to deal with my life, to be happy and functioning. I have luckily found supplements that I have been taking over the past year. They have given me yet another level of functionality for which I am extremely thankful.

I know that things always turn out the way they are supposed to. No matter how unexpected that outcome may be. I have learned to live and work through whatever the process may be. I can deal with it no matter how difficult it may seem at the time. Things always turn out ok and sometimes far better that what was expected in the first place.

Magic Monday

It’s Monday!

For most this means back to work and routine. For me, it means that I got up and got the boy on the bus. Now I will sit here, on the back porch, and drink my coffee till the very last minute before I have to get ready for work. Of course, there are a thousand things I could be doing around the house instead.

I always use the word “routine” very loosely. Sometimes kids, family and work mean last minute. Now that we have a granddaughter pitter pattering around the house, it has become even more “live by the moment”. I’ve learned to go with the flow. If I tried to live a structured daily routine, I would probably lose my mind.

I have learned over the years to live each day as it’s own. It is very rare that everyday can be navigated in the same way. Things can change in a split second and you will have to adjust accordingly. So, I don’t fight it, I live it. Sometimes it’s easy and other times it’s a complete nightmare. Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason and other times it flows just right. That is just life.

Enjoy it. Go with the flow. Be spontaneous. Do something out of the ordinary. Surprise someone. Make someone smile. Make yourself smile. Pick someone flowers. Pick yourself some flowers.

Life is simply a series of moments and once they’re gone, you can’t get them back. So why not make them count?