How many times have you started your day in a goodish mood, surprisingly happyish upon waking, just to have it all go to hell cuz of one person you let into your personal thoughts or space? Sometimes it happens before you are even aware of what is going on. When that person walks away, you’re like…damn.
When you work with the public, it’s hard to not let others attitudes and personalities interrupt your mood. Good or bad. Some are infectiously good and some are just horribly horrible. You work in the same place long enough, you get to know who to speak at length with and who to try to stay away from.
So what do you do when these people are considered family or a close friend? Most everyone will consider it taboo to let yourself stay away from family or close friends. But, what if this person can turn your good day into a bad day at the drop of a hat. What if?
I say you have to give yourself permission to allow yourself space. If you know that this person is toxic to you in any way, you may need to separate yourself to some extent. You are allowed to say no when they want to see you. You are allowed to decline that call when you see their name. You are allowed to unfollow on social media when it’sconstant negativity. You are allowed to not read that text when you get it and think to yourself “oh hell no, I do not have time for this today”. It doesn’t matter who it is, give yourself permission to take a breather.
Your energy, your thoughts and your mood are yours. If you can help it, don’t let someone else interrupt what could be an awesome day for you. Set boundaries and limitations for yourself and others. Keep your bubble closed whenever possible and when all else fails, grab yourself a big ol stick of sage and then see who doesn’t come around anymore 😉🤪