As A Woman

I saw this the other day and it is probably the truest statement I have ever come across. When I was younger, I’m sure that 40’s seemed ancient. However, the way my grandmother and mom have carried themselves through the years, getting older was never a fear of mine.

I have never been one to be concerned with getting older. The grays, the wrinkles, the everything that comes with it. I have earned every single one of those gray hairs. All the laugh and worry lines and especially those WTF lines.

I enjoy the calmness that comes with getting older. Trivial things don’t matter anymore. I am who I am and there is nothing to apologize for. Drama is irrelevant. I have no time for things or people that create it and I have no problem removing those things from my life. In my 20’s, I would have second guessed myself about that.

It has become easier to set boundaries and stick to them. I have a somewhat chaotic routine that I love. I have friends that really are friends. I have a unrequited love for being at home but also a unrelenting desire to go on adventures. (Just not too much of an adventure).

As the pic above states: I love this shit so much. We we are all younger and looking forward to being an adult? This is what we are looking forward to. This amazing unapologetic realness.

Today’s To Do List

My to do list every day, though sometimes I need a reminder! .
#goodmorning #coffeeplease #happythursday #haveagreatday #almosttheweekend #countyourblessings #practicekindness #letgo #listentoyourself #beproductive #staycalm #positivevibes #letgoofthenegative #youcandoit #youvecomethisfar #organizedchaos #simplycomplicated #beautifulmess #hotmessmom #magicmom #momlife #grandmalife #wifelife #qualityoflife #workingmom #workingwife #workinprogress #perfectpending

What’s Your Path?

What path are you on today? Sometimes we are all ready, set, go on a certain one…then life happens and we have to readjust, adapt, maybe even change our way of thinking. That’s ok…there is always a reason for everything and even though we may not know what that reason is, we have to trust ourselves and our intuitions to help lead us the right way. If you find you end up in the wrong spot, make a new path. .
#goodmorning #haveagreatday #youaremagic #momsdayoff #lifehappens #intuition #whatpathareyouon #makeithappen #beagoodhuman #organizedchaos #simplycomplicated #beautifulmess #hotmessmom #workingmom #workingwife #momlife #grandmalife #wifelife #makeyourownpath #wheredoyouwanttobe #choiceisyours #makeitinteresting #makeityours #smile #youcandoit #thoughtsbecomethings #findyourreason #magicmom

What’s over there?

Good morning! Happy Monday! What is on the other side of that little hill? Around that bend? Could be good bad 😞 Could be opportunity 🤗 Could be something fantastic 😍 Could be something scary 😖 Truth is, it’s unknown, you won’t know till you get there. So does that mean you turn around and go back the way you came? Or do you keep moving forward, even though it may be scary? .
#goodmorning #coffeeplease #haveagreatday #happymonday #organizedchaos #simplycomplicated #beautifulmess #hotmessmom #magicmom #momlife #grandmalife #wifelife #momsdayoff #workingmom #workingwife #wifingishard #momingishard #youcandoit #keepmovingforward #youaremagic #findyourreason #findyourthing #findyourplace #dowhatyoulove #notetoself #truth #youarepowerful #try #justdoit #youwillthankyourself

It’s Not About That

How many times have you told yourself, or heard someone else say, “If I could just lose 10, 20, 50 pounds, I would feel so much better!” Then how many times have we all tried to do this with less than desirable results? Let’s face it, there are many of us that dieting doesn’t work for. Most of the diets out there are hard to maintain and most of us just give up. Trust me, when I start reading about one and the see the words “meal plan” or “meal replacement”, I immediately stop reading. I’m not going to deprive myself of the things I love, or drink my meals. I don’t have time to rearrange my schedule to accommodate a diet or meal plan. Nor do I habe the time to stop what I’m doing to make a shake or eat at a certain time. Some will see that as lazy or me not being serious about my health, I see it as real life and it’s just not for me. I have kids and a husband that would probably not eat 95% of what most of these plans include and I don’t have the time or money to make several different meals.

What if you tried to do it the other way around? What if you tried getting healthy first? Coming to terms with yourself and the body you’re in. Move a little more, drink more water, drink one less soda or energy drink today, pay attention to what you’re putting into your body and how it makes you feel. Be aware and conscious of your habits. Then, if you want to eat that cookie, cupcake or donut…EAT IT! Don’t deprive yourself of anything. Instead, understand what you are putting into your body and pay attention to how your body reacts to it.

A year and a half ago I knew nothing about gut health. I heard about it all the time but never really put much thought into it. Probiotics, prebiotics, vitamins, supplements…Eh…not gonna make much difference for me, I’m good. Well, I was completely wrong. I had no idea how something as simple as an antibiotic could wreak havoc on my system and at the same time finding the right pre/probiotic could have so many benefits. I had no idea how much I actually needed them until I started them.

I also didn’t know how many ailments, conditions and side effects could be eliminated by getting your gut right. Headaches, anxiety, joint pain, blood sugar, cholesterol, sleeplessness, lack of energy, mood, weight issues (underweight or overweight), allergies and that’s just to name a few. It is amazing how our body works and how much originates in our gut. I am still no expert but I do know how doing this has made me feel and what it has helped me with. I can only speak from personal experience, not from a PhD or degree of any kind.

I used to live on ibuprofen daily, all day. Headaches, joint pain, all over body pain. I would literally feel like I was 80 years old getting out of bed in the mornings. It took a good hour for my feet to feel like they could work normally. No matter how little or much sleep I got, i never ever felt rested when I woke up. I was groggy, tired all day, my mood sucked and I relied heavily on ibuprofen, coffee and energy drinks to get me through my day. My main focus every day was going through the motions to get through my day so I could just go to bed. Then lay there and wonder why I couldn’t fall asleep and then just do it all again the next day. I chalked it up to my job, having kids, getting older and just life in general. This was not living, this was existing and I just got to a point that I was done with it.

Right before I was getting ready to make a doctor appointment to go to get myself checked for some answers to all of my issues, my friend talked me into doing what she had been doing for the last year. She was coming off all her meds, her weight was down, she was actually feeling good. I was skeptical. Very much skeptical. How could a few supplements really make that much of a difference? I wasn’t one who favored taking pills all day long but was that really any different than what I was already doing with the ibuprofen, etc? These were natural, good for you, could make a difference in my overall existence and I was still hesitant in doing it. Funny how the brain works. I had someone literally offering me something that was going to help me but being a creature of habit with prescriptions and over the counter stuff, it seemed strange to me.

However, I was so desperate at this point I did it. I took her advice. I did what she told me to do. I started on my unknown journey. One little drink, once a day. No way was this really going to be beneficial. It was too simple. Everything else I had read about or been offered had a stick regimen. Do this at them time, do something else at this time, etc. To start this was just one thing, once a day at whatever time I wanted.

It took me one week. Just one. A few days after starting I was craving bananas, I don’t eat bananas. Come to find out my body was craving what it needed, not what o was used to putting into it. After about a week, I woke up and I actually wanted to get out of bed, and guess what? My feet worked like a normal person and I wasn’t aching all over and walking around like the hunchback of Notre Dame. After a few weeks I noticed that I hadn’t touched that bottle of ibuprofen and I hadn’t had a headache in a while. I was feeling good all day and I never even reached or longed for that second cup of coffee. I actually didn’t even want to drink the first cup. Coming from someone who drank more than a pot a day…that’s saying a lot.

That was it for me. After 30 days I was finally a believer. I was all in and I started adding other products. They still worked with my schedule. Still fit into my lifestyle. I don’t think I felt that good when I was in my 20’s. It wasn’t my job, wasn’t my kids and it wasn’t just life and me getting older. It was about getting my gut right. Paying attention to my body. Putting the right things into it and balancing it out. Now, after a year and a half, I’m down 35 pounds. I have had maybe 2 headaches. My cholesterol is normal. My mood is stableish. I don’t hurt all over all the time. I’m not tired and groggy all the time. I still have bad days but the good days completely outweigh those.

I’m not perfect. I still eat cake and steak and cheese. I don’t exercise regularly and I am still human. However, this was something that I could easily fit into MY schedule and life. This worked with me and my ever changing schedule. I didn’t have to change up my days or stop what I was doing. It is simple and it works.

So the truth is, none of us got unhealthy overnight. There is no magic pill that is going to make you lose 50 pounds in a week, and if there is it isn’t healthy and it’s not sustainable. It takes time, patience and consistency. It takes being human and taking responsibility for yourself. It takes you listening to someone who has gone through it and come out on the other side. It takes a leap of faith. It takes going against everything you’ve known and become accustomed to.

It’s not about getting skinny. It’s about getting healthy!

Do Something Different?

How long have you been doing the same thing over and over the same way and expecting a different outcome? Guess what, it’s not gonna happen. Sometimes you have to change things up a bit, get out of your comfort zone, think outside your box.

Our comfort zone is our safe place. We are comfortable there but it’s also very easy to get stuck there. Some days we are all gungho about stepping out of it, motivated to do something new, right up until the moment we go to do it. Then all these voices start popping into our head. The what ifs creep in. The anxiety pops up. Then we end up talking or thinking our way out of it faster than we pumped ourselves up to do it.

You always hear people say, think outside the box. However, what if it is a box that you have created for yourself. You do what works for you. You do what is easy for you. You keep a learned behavior because it has served you well in the past and it’s all you really know. It isn’t easy to shift our brains into a different gear or down a new path when we have been on the same one for soooo long.

I’ve learned that our biggest obstacle is usually ourselves. We hold ourselves back more than we think we do. We aren’t always willing to accept the unknown. If we can’t see what’s on the other side of a decision, then we don’t dare take the next step. We want certainty. We don’t like to be uncomfortable. It can be downright scary. So, we just keep doing what we know, what we’re comfy with, because we already know what the outcome is going to be.

So what if that outcome doesn’t serve us any longer? We still keep doing things the same way and eventually we become ok with the negativity. It becomes toxic to us but for some reason, we still revel in it. How do we retrain our brains to do something different? We somehow have to be ok with being uncomfortable, even if just for a little while.

The mind is a powerful thing. However, it is your mind and you have the ability to control it. This takes time, baby steps, one day at a time, sometimes one second at a time. One uncomfortable moment at a time.

This is something that I’m still working on. I have sometimes been successful at it, other times I feel like I’m right back at square one. But, it is an awesome feeling when you overcome your own fears, your own insecurities. When you get to the other side of them, it makes you wonder what you were ever so worried about in the first place.