How many times have you come out on the other side of a situation thinking to yourself, “If I had only…”. How long have you sat there and pondered the what ifs? What if I had said this? Done this? Reacted like this? You could sit and do this for hours, days, years…where does it get you? Nowhere.
We do the best we can with what we know right now. Life is a series of teachable moments. You learn from mistakes, situations and experiences so that you can do better the next time. That is how we grow. If you keep reliving the same situation over and over again, maybe you haven’t learned what you’re supposed to yet.
How many times have you had the same conversation over and over with your kids, husband, coworker, or friend without a different outcome? You feel like you’re beating your head against a brick wall. If they would just listen, right? Have you perhaps tried changing the way you react to a situation in hope of a different outcome? Sometimes this works…and sometimes your kids, husband, etc are just hard headed and don’t catch on.
I know that when I’m in a situation like this I can feel the stress compounding. The anxiety can be overwhelming and I have to shut it down. I have to take a breather. Could be a day, week or month. I have to step away or out of the situation and remove myself from it. Take a time out so to speak. Sometimes, not even think about it until my brain is ready to revisit it with a new outlook.
I don’t really have any words of wisdom when it comes to things like this. Only that you need to trust yourself. Trust your gut and instinct. Sometimes you have to make a change within yourself if you want to see change elsewhere.
Learn to adapt to new things. Trust that your journey is going to lead you to where you need to be, not necessarily where you want to be.
Evolve by learning from your mistakes, experiences, choices…take from them what you need to grow and leave the rest.
Become the best you that you can be. Be kind, thoughtful and fully aware in every situation. Make sure that your loved ones know that they are thought of, that you’re there for them, that they are loved. However, don’t over extend yourself so that you have nothing left for you.
Be present for your relationships. We all get distracted with everyday going ons that we forget about the ones that are right in front of us. Work, bills, daily chores…we get lost in it. When is the last time you took 5 minutes to really give someone your attention? When is the last time you did something for someone just to do it?