Today’s To Do List

My to do list every day, though sometimes I need a reminder! .
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What’s Your Path?

What path are you on today? Sometimes we are all ready, set, go on a certain one…then life happens and we have to readjust, adapt, maybe even change our way of thinking. That’s ok…there is always a reason for everything and even though we may not know what that reason is, we have to trust ourselves and our intuitions to help lead us the right way. If you find you end up in the wrong spot, make a new path. .
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What’s over there?

Good morning! Happy Monday! What is on the other side of that little hill? Around that bend? Could be good bad 😞 Could be opportunity ðŸĪ— Could be something fantastic 😍 Could be something scary 😖 Truth is, it’s unknown, you won’t know till you get there. So does that mean you turn around and go back the way you came? Or do you keep moving forward, even though it may be scary? .
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Do Something Different?

How long have you been doing the same thing over and over the same way and expecting a different outcome? Guess what, it’s not gonna happen. Sometimes you have to change things up a bit, get out of your comfort zone, think outside your box.

Our comfort zone is our safe place. We are comfortable there but it’s also very easy to get stuck there. Some days we are all gungho about stepping out of it, motivated to do something new, right up until the moment we go to do it. Then all these voices start popping into our head. The what ifs creep in. The anxiety pops up. Then we end up talking or thinking our way out of it faster than we pumped ourselves up to do it.

You always hear people say, think outside the box. However, what if it is a box that you have created for yourself. You do what works for you. You do what is easy for you. You keep a learned behavior because it has served you well in the past and it’s all you really know. It isn’t easy to shift our brains into a different gear or down a new path when we have been on the same one for soooo long.

I’ve learned that our biggest obstacle is usually ourselves. We hold ourselves back more than we think we do. We aren’t always willing to accept the unknown. If we can’t see what’s on the other side of a decision, then we don’t dare take the next step. We want certainty. We don’t like to be uncomfortable. It can be downright scary. So, we just keep doing what we know, what we’re comfy with, because we already know what the outcome is going to be.

So what if that outcome doesn’t serve us any longer? We still keep doing things the same way and eventually we become ok with the negativity. It becomes toxic to us but for some reason, we still revel in it. How do we retrain our brains to do something different? We somehow have to be ok with being uncomfortable, even if just for a little while.

The mind is a powerful thing. However, it is your mind and you have the ability to control it. This takes time, baby steps, one day at a time, sometimes one second at a time. One uncomfortable moment at a time.

This is something that I’m still working on. I have sometimes been successful at it, other times I feel like I’m right back at square one. But, it is an awesome feeling when you overcome your own fears, your own insecurities. When you get to the other side of them, it makes you wonder what you were ever so worried about in the first place.

Honor Yourself

How many times have you come out on the other side of a situation thinking to yourself, “If I had only…”. How long have you sat there and pondered the what ifs? What if I had said this? Done this? Reacted like this? You could sit and do this for hours, days, years…where does it get you? Nowhere.

We do the best we can with what we know right now. Life is a series of teachable moments. You learn from mistakes, situations and experiences so that you can do better the next time. That is how we grow. If you keep reliving the same situation over and over again, maybe you haven’t learned what you’re supposed to yet.

How many times have you had the same conversation over and over with your kids, husband, coworker, or friend without a different outcome? You feel like you’re beating your head against a brick wall. If they would just listen, right? Have you perhaps tried changing the way you react to a situation in hope of a different outcome? Sometimes this works…and sometimes your kids, husband, etc are just hard headed and don’t catch on.

I know that when I’m in a situation like this I can feel the stress compounding. The anxiety can be overwhelming and I have to shut it down. I have to take a breather. Could be a day, week or month. I have to step away or out of the situation and remove myself from it. Take a time out so to speak. Sometimes, not even think about it until my brain is ready to revisit it with a new outlook.

I don’t really have any words of wisdom when it comes to things like this. Only that you need to trust yourself. Trust your gut and instinct. Sometimes you have to make a change within yourself if you want to see change elsewhere.

Learn to adapt to new things. Trust that your journey is going to lead you to where you need to be, not necessarily where you want to be.

Evolve by learning from your mistakes, experiences, choices…take from them what you need to grow and leave the rest.

Become the best you that you can be. Be kind, thoughtful and fully aware in every situation. Make sure that your loved ones know that they are thought of, that you’re there for them, that they are loved. However, don’t over extend yourself so that you have nothing left for you.

Be present for your relationships. We all get distracted with everyday going ons that we forget about the ones that are right in front of us. Work, bills, daily chores…we get lost in it. When is the last time you took 5 minutes to really give someone your attention? When is the last time you did something for someone just to do it?

Including yourself…

Tuesday Check List

Don’t forget to drink your coffee, plexus or whatever your crutch is so you have some small type of functionality.

Try and stay focused and positive. You are the one that decides how your day is gonna go.

Take a deep breath. Count to 3, 10, 50 or 100 if you have to. Step back before you react to anything. Sometimes silence is best. Some people can’t help but be the way they are.

Put your pants on, if you want.

And last but not least, remember, Nobody looks good in orange!

Thou Shall Not!

How many times have you started your day in a goodish mood, surprisingly happyish upon waking, just to have it all go to hell cuz of one person you let into your personal thoughts or space? Sometimes it happens before you are even aware of what is going on. When that person walks away, you’re like…damn.

When you work with the public, it’s hard to not let others attitudes and personalities interrupt your mood. Good or bad. Some are infectiously good and some are just horribly horrible. You work in the same place long enough, you get to know who to speak at length with and who to try to stay away from.

So what do you do when these people are considered family or a close friend? Most everyone will consider it taboo to let yourself stay away from family or close friends. But, what if this person can turn your good day into a bad day at the drop of a hat. What if?

I say you have to give yourself permission to allow yourself space. If you know that this person is toxic to you in any way, you may need to separate yourself to some extent. You are allowed to say no when they want to see you. You are allowed to decline that call when you see their name. You are allowed to unfollow on social media when it’sconstant negativity. You are allowed to not read that text when you get it and think to yourself “oh hell no, I do not have time for this today”. It doesn’t matter who it is, give yourself permission to take a breather.

Your energy, your thoughts and your mood are yours. If you can help it, don’t let someone else interrupt what could be an awesome day for you. Set boundaries and limitations for yourself and others. Keep your bubble closed whenever possible and when all else fails, grab yourself a big ol stick of sage and then see who doesn’t come around anymore 😉ðŸĪŠ