How long have you been doing the same thing over and over the same way and expecting a different outcome? Guess what, it’s not gonna happen. Sometimes you have to change things up a bit, get out of your comfort zone, think outside your box.
Our comfort zone is our safe place. We are comfortable there but it’s also very easy to get stuck there. Some days we are all gungho about stepping out of it, motivated to do something new, right up until the moment we go to do it. Then all these voices start popping into our head. The what ifs creep in. The anxiety pops up. Then we end up talking or thinking our way out of it faster than we pumped ourselves up to do it.
You always hear people say, think outside the box. However, what if it is a box that you have created for yourself. You do what works for you. You do what is easy for you. You keep a learned behavior because it has served you well in the past and it’s all you really know. It isn’t easy to shift our brains into a different gear or down a new path when we have been on the same one for soooo long.
I’ve learned that our biggest obstacle is usually ourselves. We hold ourselves back more than we think we do. We aren’t always willing to accept the unknown. If we can’t see what’s on the other side of a decision, then we don’t dare take the next step. We want certainty. We don’t like to be uncomfortable. It can be downright scary. So, we just keep doing what we know, what we’re comfy with, because we already know what the outcome is going to be.
So what if that outcome doesn’t serve us any longer? We still keep doing things the same way and eventually we become ok with the negativity. It becomes toxic to us but for some reason, we still revel in it. How do we retrain our brains to do something different? We somehow have to be ok with being uncomfortable, even if just for a little while.
The mind is a powerful thing. However, it is your mind and you have the ability to control it. This takes time, baby steps, one day at a time, sometimes one second at a time. One uncomfortable moment at a time.
This is something that I’m still working on. I have sometimes been successful at it, other times I feel like I’m right back at square one. But, it is an awesome feeling when you overcome your own fears, your own insecurities. When you get to the other side of them, it makes you wonder what you were ever so worried about in the first place.